it is just me? or do bigger guys have a problem finding people to be with? i dunno i guess i just wanna hear other people say they are struggling too.....it gets kinda lonely sometimes, and it seems like the sites you go to, all u see is, u must be height/weight proportionate.....or they hate overweight people....i dont know how many times ive started talking to someone and felt a connection and when they find out im a bigger guy all of the sudden, everything is different, everything goes down the toilet!! maybe im just looking in all the wrong places...... i refuse to apologize for being overweight, because i look sexy as hell!!! and just tired of waiting all the time for someone out there to come....cuz it feels like they never will???

Sorry for posting so late. I think when I was around 20 years old I had a major problem finding someone that liked me, even in the bear community guys didn't at all find me attractive. I was like around 252lbs at the time, then through the years I reached up to 271lbs. Thankfully I found my boyfriend through a message board but the sad part was that I didn't even find my current boyfriend at any kind of bear related website it was actually a website for skinnier dudes though both of us were overweight it was still nice to find someone that likes me for me.

I'm starting to see more Bears (overweight) going for the skinny chasers, I will never understand why this happens maybe its just that bears get tired of fucking or having sex with overweight guys and then they end up trying something different and go with the chasers. I don't think you're looking in the wrong places. Sooner or later you will find a guy that likes you for you. Shit I wouldn't even apologize for me being overweight either, if a person has an issue with it tough shit.